Position on LGBT+ Issues

Bajaba Q
May 14, 2023
edited January 18, 2026

Introduction

I consider myself an ally of LGBT+ people. I wasn't always an ally, but about 20 years ago, I realized that what color, creed, or who you care for - does not matter to me at all (And if it matters to God - then that's between you and Him).

The real question (for me) is: Do I like interacting with you? If the answer is yes, excellent! If the answer is no, I'll try to avoid you being in my life.

However, since some people seem to be threatened by LGBT+ people, these are my thoughts on some of their concerns:

Marriage/Civil Union

The word "marriage" can mean different things to different people.

The state should recognize Civil Unions between two consenting adult (18+) humans - this can be called "marriage" and be accomplished by filling out a form and getting it notarized at the courthouse. Those parties should receive all benefits (or penalties) provided by the State.

"Marriage" defined by a religion, creed, or code may differ from the State: eg only man-woman. That is up to that religion, creed, or code to define and has no impact on what benefits (or penalties) are provided by the State. If you don't like that definition, don't participate in that religion, creed, or code (or work to change it).

Public Restrooms

If you own a large enough facility to have multiple stall restrooms, then you should provide a "family" single stall restroom. It would also be super-great to have a changing table in all three of these restrooms.

If you are a Trans-person, you should feel free to use either the family restroom or the restroom of your presenting gender. I have done no research, but I doubt there has been many (if any) cases of a transgender restroom predator. I suspect there are many cases of cisgender restroom predators (aka rapists).

Sports

For adult participants (eg >18 years old (college and up)) - follow the IOC guidelines on transgender athletes.

For participants pre-puberty (<10 years old) - coed teams (I think most already are, at this level, and there are probably very few transgender <10 year-olds).

For 10-18 year olds (maybe addressed by the IOC, in which case, those should be followed), my thoughts are these, and they probably only apply to "male-born people who present as females" on girls teams. I believe these "restrictions" should depend on one or more key-attributes of each sport (height, weight, strength, arm length, leg length, speed, reflexes, etc) as defined by that sports governing body.

First, determine the average and 2-sigma (95%) and 3-sigma (99%) values of those attributes for students playing those sports: e.g., average height is 5'5"; 2-sigma height is 5'7"; 3-sigma height is 5'9".

Then

  1. If a person is ≤ 2-sigma, then OK to play
  2. If a person is ≥ 3-sigma, then NO to play
  3. If a person is > 2-sigma and < 3-sigma, then
    1. NO to play, if there is already 1 or more students on a team with those attributes;
    2. OK to play, if there is no other student on team with those attributes

Services (should a business serve all)

Businesses should not discriminate as to who they serve.

However, a business owner should not be forced to do something they are uncomfortable or disagree with - this can at least be partially mitigated in the following way:

  1. Businesses should provide service to an individual (eg get your tires changed, buy food)
  2. Businesses should not be forced to provide "offensive content" service to multiple people (eg couples)

Examples:

Make a wedding cake that says Congrats Joe and Steve.
Yes, business should do this (but do you really want to get a cake from someone who doesn't like you)
Make a cake showing Joe kissing Steve.
No, business should not have to do this.
Be a wedding photographer for Joe and Steve.
No, business should not have to do this.
Fix Joe and Steve's car
Yes, business should do this.
Photograph Joe and Steve's dog.
Yes, business should do this.

Child becoming gay/transgender

That has to be so hard - for parent and the child.

I think it should be between the parents and the child. However, if the child is abused then normal law-enforcement protocols should apply.

I think the child has the right to "be who they are" - but I don't think either the State or the parents should be required to provide hormone therapy, etc.

Conclusion

Alternative proposals and comments welcome - or comments on other areas I did not consider.